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Episode 04: I Can Do this Crazy Thing Called Life with Ailie Steel

Ailie shares with us the power of embracing who you are. Join us to hear how a chronic warrior emerged from illness to become an Identity Coach and Happiness Mentor.

Ailie Steel is an identity coach and a happiness mentor from Scotland. She’s also the creator of Invisibility Covered. It’s all about telling stories from diverse and incredible people. She’s been a chronic illness warrior for close to 10 years now and an international adoptee from China. She’s also a true foodie, adores traveling and her favorite motto is “Dancing with Life Makes Everything Sweeter.”

What is identity?

Ailie defines identity as three parts:

  • who you are at your core

  • experiences that made a big impact

  • your journey of life as a whole.

Identity is not tied to just one thing. Who you are is not defined by what you're studying in school, or your job.

How do goals and happiness go together?

It's important to have goals. It's also important to not tie your happiness to goals in life. If you're tying happiness to promotions, or money, it's not practical happiness. It's about creating happiness that is sustainable. One way to do this is through mindfulness.

How to own all of your identity?

Your biggest area of weakness could also be your biggest area of strength. If you find something you're not happy with, see how it is an asset to your life and how you can turn it to an even bigger strength.

Something that helps Ailie get through life (also known as a mantra in the United States, but Brits don't use that phrase ;)

“I can do this crazy thing called life.” This is a grounding statement that reminds her of her own capabilities and helps her move forward.


Become aware. We often live on the go, and without really reflecting. Start writing down the things that really light you up and noting what brings you down. Taking action in those two things can make a big difference and help you construct your life in a way that works for you.


Dancing with Life Makes Everything Sweeter. You don’t always need to be pushing back in the current of life. Go with the flow, try and live your life in a way that’s a good rhythm for you.

Book that has made an impact

The Defining Decade by Meg Jay

The Secret Garden by Frances Hodgson Burnett

Courage Song

Piece of Me by Britney Spears

My Kind of Love by Emeli Sande


Connect With Ailie:


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Instagram: @mingshelby

Facebook: Ming Shelby

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